October 29, 2014

How Fear Is Disguising Itself & Profoundly Affecting Your Life (You'd Be Surprised)

I doubted the pond had anything more to say, I mean, how many times could I stand by murky water and get a message? The urge that day to plant myself on the rock wall amid goat turds and mown grass debris to dangle my feet in the cool water was, I felt, ridiculous, but I did it anyway. Here’s the silly part: I always suspend my feet cautiously below the surface, careful to watch for that elusive snapping turtle. I can see my toes but I can’t see the pond’s bottom. It’s like an unknown abyss. At least that’s my rationalization for having fear, admittedly, of something I cannot see.

Anyway, if I had to sit, I might as well relax so I did. I stared at the surface of the water and wondered when I’d see those muskrats again. And if the ducks would return this winter. Or why geese who fly south after summer consider Pennsylvania a winter paradise. Have they heard of Florida?

Then I saw it. It was right there. I could see clear through to the bottom of the pond, maybe six feet deep, without encumbrance. Then a fish swam up to my toes to investigate. Or maybe as a welcome. When he left, I followed him and watched him join a group of five others lined up nearby looking straight at my feet. Fishes aligned opposite of me like my aquatic armor. Suddenly fear wasn’t a factor. I don’t even know what I did differently except maybe stop fearing.

It’s said that fear is the thing that keeps us from doing everything. If you think fear is too strong a word to describe what’s going on with you, let’s make it interchangeable with something more palatable, like “doubt.” Or let’s look at fear another way and say realistically it’s just “logic.”

It’s not logical to think that the loser from your neighborhood would ever win an Olympic medal.

It’s unrealistic to believe someone who never touched a ball until high school would play professional sports.

It’s moronic to suppose a person with social anxiety would ever win a Tony award for best actor.

But is it impossible?

August 27, 2014

Cindy will be interviewed in the virtual book launch online party for Midlifestyle RNventor, Mary Buchan, author of "Over iT."

Cindy will be live online on September 12th!

I've been invited to join the virtual book launch party for Midlifestyle RNventor, author and songwriter, Mary Buchan, whose book "Over iT" is designed to help you do just that. We all have an iT to get over -- some challenge in life that seems difficult, if not impossible, to overcome. These may be health problems, traumatic experiences in our pasts, or stressful situations in our finances or careers. Sometimes the iT stems from broken relationships or negative judgments we've encountered during our journey.
From 11:30am-12:30pm, I'll help promote the idea that there really is a better way to think about life. Register here. You might even win a free copy of my novel, "The Aliquot Sum," and take advantage of other great giveaways! Or join Mary and eight other authors anytime between 10am to 5pm EST.
To register for Mary's virtual book launch, click here. To view her book trailer, click here.
For more information on how thoughts become things, check out Cindy's blog here.
As always, thanks for your support!


Authors joining in this promotion:
Mary Buchan, Midlifestyle RNventor, Songwriter and Author
Laurie Dupar, Coaching for ADHD
Carla Wynn Hall, The Wisdom of Success
Cindy Falteich, Novelist, Blogger and Screenwriter
Sarah Wilson, Soul Visionary
Susanne Hernet, Collective Herd, Transformational Coaching, Speaking & Learning
Odette Laurie, Women on Top Business Coaching
Julie Flippin, Small Business Savvy. Power. Plan. Profit.
Phillip Hatfield, Motivational Speaker & Author

August 21, 2014

Is There Any Such Thing as Luck?

Good luck, bad luck, fate, destiny, karma.

Each word elicits an emotional response. Each describes something that seems out of my control. As such, I don’t care for them. I don’t appreciate my emotions jump-roping through commas like an Indy car leading the heart of my emotional soul by the nose. There is only one thing I can control and that is my thoughts. How I choose to feel in any given moment is up to me.

So what do I do when those words are jumping through a conversation? I choose another.

Here’s the one I like: opportunity. And the number one item on my wish list is “Opportunities for my son.” Money wasn’t abundant growing up. I wouldn’t inherit it nor did I marry into it. But whenever I looked at that little guy I knew very strongly it wasn’t about money. In my mind it was about opportunity. That delineation is very important.

I’ll tell you why.

July 24, 2014

A book review of the Inspirational "Over It" by Mary Buchan

Recently I read a book called Over It by Mary Buchan. I didn't know who Mary was but now after reading, I feel like if we met, we would instantly be friends.

She is well-read, a fact evident in the references, passages and inspirational quotes she shares from others who have contributed to building the foundation of self-awareness. Then she takes it one step further. Throughout the book, she shares her failures as well as victories in stories that are inspirational and relatable, confirming the connected-ness between us all. The concise chapters help add balance to the busiest of schedules and introspective questions help the reader embrace her message.

If you’re looking for portable, easy-to-read, concise affirmation that it’s time to get "Over It," Mary’s writing will definitely fill that bill.

In Mary’s words, she wrote the book for women in midlife who feel they are at a cross roads in life. Her purpose was to share life-changing insights to help people get unstuck and break free from the circumstances holding them back. In Over iT: How to Live Above Your Circumstances and Beyond Yourself, she tackles the “iT” situations that often hold people back from their optimal life.

To learn more about Mary, the Lifestyle RN, check out these links: 

July 7, 2014

Why Are You Here -- A Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego for the Wonderer

You Are Here
I arrived, anxious and hesitant, even with my husband by my side, wondering what the day would bring. 

Then instantly in the sparsely populated room, I sideswiped a stranger, making me feel like an imbecile. Politely she apologized, as did I since it appeared to me to be my fault, but I found something familiar in her stature and her face. She failed to recognize me but took the conversation to the next level, saying, “Well, let’s see how we’d know each other. For starters, why are you here?” 

In any given moment, in any given venue, isn’t that always the big question? “Why are you here?” 

She was there to watch the short movie that documented an essential part of her life, filmed by the same man I was there to see who intended to make a feature film based on my novel.

What were the odds?